Every January, motivation feels high. By February, it disappears.
And no, this isn’t about weak willpower. Neuroscience gives us a clearer answer. Habits live deep in the brain, in an area designed to save energy by automating behaviors.
New goals, on the other hand, rely on the brain’s “thinking” center, which gets tired quickly.
When life gets busy or stressful, the brain naturally falls back on old, familiar patterns. Not because they’re good for us, but because they’re efficient.
Add to that the role of dopamine.
Our brains stay motivated when there’s a quick reward. Most resolutions don’t offer that. So motivation drops, and the habit fades.
This matters not just for adults, but for children too.
When we expect sudden, lasting change (better routines, less screen time, improved behavior) without structure or support, we’re working against the brain.
What actually helps?
- Small, specific goals
- Predictable routines
- Immediate positive feedback
- Flexibility when motivation dips
- Patience with the brain’s learning curve
Change is a neurological process, not a character test.So if your resolutions, or your child’s routines, didn’t stick before, don’t blame yourself.
The brain needs guidance, repetition, and compassion to rewire. Have you noticed how motivation fades faster than expected? Let’s rethink change in a brain-friendly way.